I Did Something That Most Unhappy People Do Everyday π
Issue #123: Comparison is a Silent Killer. AI Prompt Hack to Create Useful Images. The Daily Dad.
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A few months ago, I was out on a walk with my wife and our dog.
You know, one of those slow, thoughtful walks where the air feels light, and your mind gets a bit heavier?
I turned to her and said,
βSomethingβs been weighing on me latelyβ¦β
She looked at me, curious.
And I admitted it.
βIβve been comparing myself.β
Not in a healthy, motivating kind of way.
But the kind that makes you feel like youβre falling behind.
Like youβre not doing enough.
Like everyone else is 10 steps ahead.
There are a few people in my circle β good people, inspiring people β who have:
10x bigger businesses
10x more followers
10x higher net worth
And instead of cheering them on, I felt... small.
I didnβt feel inspired.
I felt deflated.
(Comparison really is a silent killer, man. It creeps in without warning.)
But then my wife, in her calm and grounded way, said something Iβll never forget:
βYou have 10x more of the things they wish they had.β
I paused.
She kept going, almost like sheβd been keeping a list just for this moment:
10x more adventures β you go to all these yoga retreats, barista courses, random learning hobbies
10x more time with your favorite people
10x more energy for meaningful work
10x more freedom to travel and explore
10x stronger relationships
10x more fulfillment
10x better health
10x better sleep
10x more peace
10x less stress
10x more joy
And in that moment, I honestly felt like the richest man alive.
Then she hit me with two questions that just stopped me:
βWould you trade what you have for what they have?β
No. Not a chance.
βAre you even willing to pay the price for that kind of success?β
Still no.
And she was right.
Now look β I get it.
Not every successful person is burning out.
Some people really do have it figured out.
Some have the money, the freedom, the peace, the sleep, all of it.
But not everyone.
And definitely not always.
And maybe⦠not me.
So hereβs what Iβm taking with me from that conversation. And maybe you will too:
1. Talk to your spouse.
If youβve got a good one, theyβll hold up the mirror when you forget who you are.
(My fellow founders β sheβs basically your built-in board of advisors.)
2. Print your blessings.
Seriously. Put them on a wall. Youβll forget. We all do.
Itβs scary how fast we normalize the beautiful life weβve created.
3. Your βordinaryβ might be someone elseβs dream life.
That friend with the fancy car and 100K followers?
They might pay anything to have your peace, your health, your mornings with your kid, your walks with your wife.
We chase the extraordinary like itβs hiding just around the corner.
But maybe β just maybe β weβre already standing in something rare.
So, before the next scrollβ¦
Pause.
Take a look around your life.
Really look.
Ask yourself:
What am I taking for granted right now?
What would someone else give anything to have?
What would I never trade β not even for 10x more?
Let the answers land.
And let them shift something inside you.
πΒ Growth Tip
Lately, Iβve been using ChatGPT a lot to create images.
But as a non-designer, my prompts were total potato quality.
Iβd type stuff like:
βMake it look cool but not too cool, with vibes, you know?β
Most prompts like this gave me pretty average results.
Then I tried something obvious (but genius):
βHey ChatGPT, write the perfect prompt for me.β ππΎ
Now, when I use the prompt suggested by ChatGPT, it creates much better images. ππΎ
π€©Β Inspiration
My friend Jeremy gifted me this beautiful book, The Daily Dad.
This quote from the book gave me incredible clarity:
Kids learn from home.
They learn in the car.
They learn from Mom and Dad.
You set the standard, so be the standard.
Little eyes are always watching.
And little hearts are always learning.
They donβt just hear what we say β
They become what we do.
So hereβs a gentle reminder of what not to do in front of your kids:
Donβt speak badly about others β it teaches judgment.
Donβt stare at your phone during dinner β it teaches disconnection.
Donβt raise your voice in anger β it teaches fear, not respect.
Donβt lie, even about small things β it teaches that honesty is flexible.
Donβt ignore your partner β it teaches what love shouldnβt look like.
π Until next time, Anil / CEO and Co-Founder of Multidots, Multicollab, and Dotstore.
May the Peaceful Growth be with you! πͺ΄
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